The man who has to hold everything together (and why structure feels impossible).

Some men don't just run a business. They hold it together with their bare hands.

They work 6 or 7 days a week.

Take every call.

Answer every question about money.

Carry the stress of customer issues

and still feel like they are in the bottom of a hole. 

All of this can silently bring a soul-destroying stress that means you can never really switch off.

The idea of putting structure in place sounds nice in theory, but when your day is firefighting it feels like extra work you don't have time for. Because you are just trying to make sure the day doesn't explode.

You've probably thought about adding some structure, maybe even tried a few methods, but it always feels like an extra weight and a luxury you cannot afford.

I've coached leaders with thousands in their teams and millions in their budgets, who feel the exact same way. But ultimately, the most successful of them have shifted from thinking of structure as "extra work" to the thing that stops them feeling "soul destroyed and broke". We found a structure that is the thing that protects their time, their energy and their cash flow - not some excel spreadsheet provided by HR.

One client, who was very resistant to coaching in the beginning (we nearly didn't even start) adopted the "Jump Start" method. This was to replicate how a car with a low battery just needs a jumpstart to getting it running smoothly again. This was a protected time where only 2 things could interrupt, family and business emergency. He put it in the beginning of his day, but others put it at the end, the beauty… it's only 15mins. A tiny space, given huge priority, overtime became the difference between the good and bad days.

Just this little shift, has allowed men to move from "I'm the worker who has to do it all" to "I'm the owner who leads the way." A leader who protects their time, energy and health from the constant pull chaos tends to invite. Don't get me wrong, these men were still tired at the end of the week, but not from spinning their wheels, instead making impact with the real work.

If this sounds like you, you are just the kind of man I work with. Helping hard working men shift from unstructured chaos to grounded and strong. I'd love for you to get in contact so we can explore working together.